Here are 5 things I wish I knew at 21 (now that I’m 61): 1. Don’t work with jerks. Even if they’re smart or well-connected—jerks will drain you. They’ll ruin your energy, your progress, your joy. 2. Shortcuts are scams. If it’s meaningful, it’ll take time. The “quick route” usually leads nowhere—or backwards. 3. Nobody’s watching you. You think people are judging you. They’re not. They’re too busy thinking about themselves. 4. You’ll regret inaction more than action. It’s the jobs you didn’t go for… the risks you didn’t take… that will haunt you. 5. Build a body of work—not just a résumé. In the long run, people don’t hire credentials. They hire evidence. Proof. Work that speaks for itself. If you’re in your 20s, steal this list. I’ve had 40 years to earn it.
These are fantastic. I’d add this one: your future is shaped less by the doors you walk through and more by the people you choose to walk with. Work with people who make you better, not bitter.
No one warns you that inaction compounds faster than mistakes. You can recover from a bad move. You can’t recover from the chances you never take.
I'll suggest a slight edit to #1... Don't work with or for jerks. Picking your manager is just about as important as picking the job/company. An A-hole manager is one of the most damaging things to a person's growth and development. A good one? Almost immeasurable positive impact
This is gold — and the kind of wisdom you only get after decades of actually living it. If I could add one more lesson I wish I understood earlier, it would be this: The people you surround yourself with will shape your entire trajectory. Choose those who challenge you, support you, and raise your standard. The rest is noise. Your list is something every 20-something should print, save, and revisit often. These aren’t just “tips” — they’re guardrails that protect your future. Appreciate you sharing 40 years of clarity
Jerks don’t just slow you down. They make you question your own fire. Life gets easier when you stop trading your peace for someone else’s status. And the moment you realize nobody is watching, you finally start moving like yourself.
I’d add a hidden sixth: stop confusing visibility with value. People obsess over being seen early in their careers instead of creating work that demands attention over decades. The truth is, few people notice the effort that doesn’t immediately sparkle, but decades later, it compounds into credibility no one can ignore. That’s the quiet way to win. Daniel Pink
I was fortunate to learn #3 fairly early and share it this way to others: When you are 20, you worry about what everyone thinks of you. When you are 40, you don't care what anyone thinks of you. When you are 60, you realize, no one one was thinking about you!
100% +1 to all of these, and I'll add: 6. Focus less on trying to predict the future and more on being able to thrive in any future (2 and 5 fall into this broader category).
What strikes me is how each of these lessons points back to something deeply human: our energy, our courage, our agency, our need to build something that actually means something. “Don’t work with jerks” isn’t just pragmatism — it’s protecting the inner architecture that keeps us creative and alive. “Shortcuts are scams” is a reminder that mastery is built, not hacked. “Nobody’s watching you” frees us from stories that were never ours. “Regret follows inaction” is the quiet truth most people discover too late. And “build a body of work” is the only strategy that compounds over decades. If I could distill it: Choose environments that lift you. Take risks that wake you up. And create work that makes you recognizable to yourself. A powerful list earned the hard way, and is worth stealing early. I am 71 and reinvent myself every day...
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